That being said, today is going to be a blog of a different kind because I am mad, nope, let me rephrase that. I AM FUCKING LIVID! For anyone who doesn't want to be a part of my anger I ask you to move on now because at this time I am going to exibite my ugly side. This may also be a long post, sorry!
I have spent most of my life around horses, rodeo and the farming lifestyle. I have raised my children in this lifestyle and they love it the same way that I do. There is a little back round to this story that must be shared before I can get to the source of my anger, most of which is positive.
In April of this year my middle daughter Michelle decided to run for Rodeo Queen in the pro rodeo we hold every year in our town. All of my kids ride and the younger two love horses and everything involving them. Michelle has showed, run barrels and participated in anything horse related ever since she was old enough to sit on a horse.
There were 3 other girls competeing against Michelle in this competition, 2 (Morgan & Sky) who she has known most of her life and 1 (Jessica) from another town nearby. In May of this year the 4 girls competed in the 1st section of the competition which was public speaking. In July the girls competed in 2 different horsemanship events, reining on this first day with thier own horses, and western pleasure and horsemanship with supplied horses on the other. The last portion of the competition involved selling as many 50/50 tickets as possible with this being used as a tie breaker if needed.
Let it be said, it was a fairly close competition throughout, even without knowing the scores until after crowning, we knew that ticket sales would be very important. So to sum up the happy part of this story, Michelle worked her ass off and won the competition. Here are a few pictures of her taken by a local photographer from our area.https://www.facebook.com/meghanpearlphotography?ref=ts
I would like to say that I think my daughter is beautiful and she deserved to win.
So on with my story. I have always been a big believer in letting my girls do stuff on thier own and only getting involved when they are in over thier heads. So when Michelle decided to run for Queen I said Go to it! but I would not sell tickets for her or phone the co-ordinator when she needed information. As far as I am concerned all of these kids are at least 16 and should be able to do it themselves but then again maybe my parenting style is a little different than the other girls parents.
The scores at the end of the day left my Michelle with a 3rd in public speaking (a bit of a surpise because she did really well), she placed 1st in both riding competitions (if you watch the videos, it is clear that she was definately the better rider) and she sold the most tickets (by 17) The judges in all of these competitions were people who really had no biases about any of the girls so I think it was a fair race. Every girl got to see everyone's scorecards so they knew how and why the placings were the way the were.
This takes us to the girl who was crowned Princess. Morgan has know Michelle most of her life and they travelled together during high school rodeo. Her response to placing 2nd was to not only be rude to Michelle and the orgainzers but to make accusations about cheating in the competition. This happened during the whole competition but was ignored by the organizers. Michelle handled this very maturly and just felt sad that Morgan felt that way.
My problem lies with the process in this contest and also the way someone who I thought was my friend reacted to Michelle winning this competition. I am going to call her BSB (back stabbing bitch) for the rest of this BSB. When the girls were given tickets to sell, thier goal was to sell as many as possible so Michelle got in her car, drove around our community selling to family and friends and local business. I bet she spent $300 in gas to sell these tickets! I never sold a ticket for her, but occasionally I would go with her for her drive arounds just because it was a visting opportunity but as far as I was concerned she wanted to be queen so she could sell the tickets. Shortly after the competition started it came to our attention that the other girls had dropped thier tickets off at a few local businesses to sell for them. Michelle came to me with this concern and I said to take it up with the co-ordinator of the contest. When she did, the response was that there was nothinbg that could be done because there was nothing in the rules preventing this. Around the same time a local business that one of my good friends owned offered to sell Michelle's tickets for her and she flatly refused, stating that she would sell them properly or not at all. She sold $4800 dollars in 50/50 tickets by knocking on doors. (Awesome as far as I am concerned)
Getting back to BSB, her and her husband have been our friends for over 20 years, they have babysat our kids, my husband was best man at thier wedding and overall I thought she would be supportive of Michelle's bid to win this competition. Well holy fuck was I wrong! This couple own the local seasonal ice cream shop in our town and Morgan was thier employee this year starting in May. I should have know BSB would be a problem at some point in time after the first comment to me but of course I like to think the best of people. Boy did I learn my lesson.
In the middle of June, well into the competition, I went into the ice cream store to buy a cone and was visiting with BSB. She at this time said "tell Michelle not to bother asking me to buy tickets because I have to support Morgan, she is my employee." OK, now tickets were 1 for $5 or 3 for $10 dollars and you would think that maybe she could have afforded to buy a some from both girls but that is her choice and she made it very clear to me. I promptly went home that night and told Michelle not bother selling to BSB or her husband because they were supporting Morgan. My husband was a little surprised at this but never said anything.
A few days latter I went in for ice cream again (yeah I know, but it is so good) and thier were for or five signs through out the store advertising rodeo queen tickets for sale in the store for Morgan. Wow, nothing like trying to win a competition.
That doesn't matter, Michelle worked her ass off and sold the most tickets and won the crown. So guess what BSB did in reaction to this. She went on facebook and posted the following posts.